• When Strangers Meet: How People You Don't Know Can Transform You (TED Books) by Kio Stark

REVIEW

Don’t be a stranger advises this abbreviate book on abutting with others.

The publishing banner of TED Talks offers addition in a alternation of what ability be advised self-help books, admitting world-help ability be added in befitting with the appetite of these “small books about big ideas.” Yes, suggests biographer and consultant Stark (Follow Me Down, 2011, etc.), extensive out to others you don’t know, alike with a simple “Hello,” will acceptable accomplish you feel better about yourself and about others—assuming the ambition of your connection isn’t abashed or offended. Indeed, writes the author, “a blinking of connection…can additionally accept an aftereffect on the beyond political world, arch us away from abhorrence and architecture against openness, cooperation, and genuine understanding.” Discomfort and alike abhorrence ability anticipate some from authoritative such connections, and amusing ambience plays a cogent role as well. Some cultures discourage alike authoritative eye acquaintance with those one doesn’t know, let alone initiating conversation. Some differences—gender, race, class, income—can lead to an alterity that puts added of the ability and/or accident on one ancillary than the other. And best of us are accomplished with what the columnist agreement “civil inattention,” which maintains the apparition of activity abreast or in confinement while in a public place, almost acknowledging the attendance of others. “Civil inattention in these situations, the esplanade and the café, the amphitheater and the concert, also amounts to a abnegation of aggregate experience,” writes Stark. “Sometimes that’s a terrible loss.” If you let yourself get to apperceive addition of addition adoration or race or nationality, you accept abstruse to see her as article added than the “other,” and “it opens up your abstraction of who counts as human.”

Hardly groundbreaking but a affable little book about authoritative connections.

EDITORIAL REVIEW

Discover the unexpected pleasures and exciting possibilities of talking to people you don’t know—how these beautiful interruptions can change you, and the world we share.

When Strangers Meet argues for the pleasures and transformative possibilities of talking to people you don’t know. Our lives are increasingly insular. We are in a hurry, our heads are down, minds elsewhere, we hear only the voices we already recognize and rarely take the effort to experience something or someone new. Talking to strangers pulls you into experiences of shared humanity and creates genuine emotional connections. It opens your world. Passing interactions cement your relationship to the places you live and work and play, they’re beautiful interruptions in the steady routines of our lives. In luminous prose, Stark shows how talking to strangers wakes you up.

Threaded throughout are powerful vignettes from Stark’s own lifelong practice of talking to strangers and documenting brief encounters, along with a deep exploration of the dynamics of where, how, and why strangers come together. Ultimately, When Strangers Meet explores the rich emotional and political meanings that are conjured up in even the briefest conversations and unexpected connections with strangers. Stark renders visible the hidden processes by which we decide who to greet and trust in passing, and the unwritten rules by which these encounters operate. When Strangers Meet teaches readers how to start talking to strangers and includes adventurous challenges for those who dare.

When Strangers Meet: How People You Don't Know Can Transform You (TED Books)

  • BookWhen Strangers Meet: How People You Don't Know Can Transform You (TED Books)
  • Author:Kio Stark
  • ISBN:1501119982
  • ISBN-13:9781501119989
  • Binding:Paperback
  • Publishing Date:2016-09-13
  • Publisher:Simon & Schuster/ TED
  • Language:English
  • Number Of pages:128